Flyby Investigates: How are Freshman Getting Cuffed?
A common piece of advice upperclassmen give to incoming freshmen is to avoid relationships. Normally, itâs a weird dynamic having a s/o during your freshman fall: youâre trying to build new platonic relationships; youâre partying; youâre taking on a rigorous academic/extracurricular workload. Thereâs just no time! However, this year, weâve seen so many frosh leaving campus in a relationship. (WHY?!?!) The simple answer is our experience is a bit... different. Donât worry, weâre amazed too.
The Zoom DMs
Many freshmen claim they were approached by their s/o in the ZMs. With all online classes, it should be obvious that relationships would stem from them. Frosh were desperate to make friends ~or~ maybe something more than friends. Thus, we traded the âwanna grab coffee after class?â irl for âwow, your hair looks really good today!â in a private message. Everyone knows the excitement of receiving a DM on Zoom... BUT to receive a flirty one: how could you resist?! This phenomenon of a âZoom Crushâ is not just a Harvard phenomenon, as the Washington Post claims that other college students around the country are experiencing them as well. (Hey â at least we arenât alone in shooting our shots!).
Quarantine Bae
The cancellation of Visitas meant frosh had to find some interesting ways of meeting their incoming class â suddenly, the class GroupMe was the hottest place to be! Bigger group chats led to smaller group chats, which sometimes led to individual messages. Many claim that they bonded with their s/o all quarantine with tons of texts and late night FaceTimesâ only to simply seal the deal when getting to campus. So unlike some upperclassmen experiences, freshmen had been talking to their person intensely since March/April. They felt like they knew them really well, making it really easy to take it to the ~next level~ when coming to campus.
Covid Cuffed
Letâs be real â the most obvious reason so many freshmen are cuffed is due to the pandemic. Loneliness right now is majorly prevalent. Commitment isnât as scary when we think about how much weâve lost this year! Why wait? Youâre in desperate need of someone you can depend on or just have fun with â to hopefully bring you some joy in this stressful time. Muriel Dol â24 claims she didnât have a problem committing because she didnât want any âsituationships.â She didnât want to worry about someone who wasnât hers when she was in a new environment about to meet lots of people.
A lot of the issues with getting cuffed freshman fall is the possibility of committing too soon before you meet everyone â this year, thatâs simply not the case. Thereâs no parties or big gatherings (at least there shouldnât be) where you feel like youâll meet someone else youâre interested in. Itâs hard to meet people in person, and even harder to make close relationships with social distancing guidelines and masks. So, when frosh met their person and vibed⌠there was no hesitation!
Somehow, freshmen have truly become the trailblazers for the latest quarantine relationships on Harvardâs campus. Is our class just more lax and open to commitment? Or is the pandemic inspiring these traits? Who knows! Nevertheless, the frosh seem happy, and thatâs all that matters<3 xoxo, flossip girl